I used to think I knew flavor.
I’d trained in fine dining, studied French sauces, broke down whole animals with precision. I could tell you how long to braise a short rib or how to balance acid in a beurre blanc. But if I’m being honest, I didn’t really understand flavor until I stepped into an Indian home kitchen.
Not a restaurant. A home.
That’s where everything I thought I knew got challenged, questioned, undone. Not violently, but quietly. Patiently. One dish at a time.
And it started with one of the most common phrases I’ve heard in Western kitchens:
“Isn’t Indian food just… spicy?”
God, that used to make me cringe.
Because it’s not just wrong. It’s a reduction. A flattening of a cuisine that’s older than most modern governments. A lazy label stuck on something people don’t want to take the time to understand.
Indian food isn’t “just spicy.”
It’s layered. Ritualistic. Regional. Political. Sacred.
Is it spicy at times? Yes, it can be, but it taught me to taste deeper. To listen harder. To unlearn everything I thought was universal.
Here are three of the biggest misconceptions I had to let go of on that journey.
1. “Spicy” means hot.
This is the most common, and most frustrating myth. In the West, “spicy” usually means heat. As in, “Oh my god, my mouth is on fire.” But in Indian cuisine, spice means spices. Masala translates to spice blend and it is the backbone of the entire culinary philosophy.
There are hundreds of spices used across India, and most of them have nothing to do with heat.
Coriander. Fennel. Cardamom. Clove. Fenugreek.
These aren’t ingredients to burn your tongue. They’re meant to tell a story.
A proper garam masala, for example, isn’t even that hot. “Garam” doesn’t mean spicy, it means warming. Warming to the body and the soul, according to Ayurveda. It’s a blend that coaxes. Not attacks.
When I first made my own garam masala from scratch, roasting, grinding, inhaling the perfume of toasted cumin, I understood the difference. Heat is a sensation. Masala is a memory.
So no, Indian food isn’t just spicy. It’s spiced. There’s a world of difference.
2. All Indian food tastes the same.
I once heard a food writer say that Indian food “tastes like curry.” That’s like saying French food tastes like cream. Or Italian food tastes like tomato sauce.
India isn’t a monolith. It’s a subcontinent.
There are over 2,000 distinct communities, dozens of officially spoken languages, (not counting other dialects) and thousands of years of regional food traditions shaped by migration, caste, colonization, and climate. What’s made in Kashmir is worlds apart from what’s eaten in Tamil Nadu.
Northern cuisine, shaped by Mughal influence, leans toward rich gravies and breads; think korma, rogan josh, naan. In the South, rice reigns supreme, coconut sneaks into almost everything, and sour tamarind dances with fiery red chilies in dishes like sambar and rasam.
Go to Gujarat and you’ll find sweetness where you didn’t expect it. Go to Bengal and mustard oil will slap you awake. Go to the Northeast and you’ll encounter fermented bamboo shoots, pork, and flavors you won’t find on any “Indian restaurant” menu in Boston or London.
The Portuguese brought the beginnings of vindaloo to Goa. The Parsis brought dhansak to Mumbai. The British brought bureaucracy, and in return, stole the spices and sold them back to India watered down in jars.
Indian food is layered. Geographical. Political.
It’s not one flavor. It’s a library.
3. Indian food is too complicated to cook at home.
This one hit me personally. Before I started learning Indian cuisine, I was intimidated. The long lists of spices, the unfamiliar techniques, the worry I’d mess it up and offend someone’s grandmother.
But what I found was the opposite.
Indian home cooking is rooted in rhythm, not recipes.
It’s intuitive. Healing. Forgiving.
Yes, there are complex dishes that take time and nuance. But there’s also the beauty of simplicity. A bowl of dal with ghee and cumin. A plate of steamed rice with lemon pickle. A humble sabzi cooked with whatever is in season, brought to life with mustard seeds and turmeric.
Once you learn the basics, tadka (tempering), building a masala, balancing heat with sour, you start to feel the freedom. You stop chasing perfection and start cooking with presence.
Indian food isn’t a test.
It’s an invitation.
And every time I accepted it, every time I stood in a home kitchen and watched someone cook without measuring spoons or fancy tools, I felt my walls drop. I stopped trying to dominate the food and started listening to it.
What It Really Taught Me
More than flavor. More than history.
Indian food taught me about care. Care for myself and care for the people I fed.
Because it’s not fast food. It’s not convenience. It’s intention.
It’s prepping the ginger garlic paste before you start.
It’s knowing when the oil is hot enough by smell.
It’s layering flavor over time, like a story you tell slowly.
I think about that every time someone asks, “Is it spicy?”
And I want to say:
No. It’s not just spicy.
It’s patient.
It’s political.
It’s poetry.
It’s generations of survival wrapped in roti.
It’s land, memory, pain, joy, all crushed into a spice grinder and fried in ghee until your whole kitchen smells like something holy.
So don’t reduce it. Don’t flatten it. Don’t insult it with your ketchup palate cowardice.
Taste it.
Learn it.
Let it change you.
It did me.
